Just a Barnard Baby

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Founded on the auspicious 11th of November, in the year 2011, Barnard Baby has blogged about provincial life in the small rural hamlet of New York City since arriving at the gates of the inimitable Barnard College with a vial of White Men's Tears in her pocket and a pair of sensible size 6 1/2 boots on her feet.

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Dubbed Mother of Prospies by the ever elusive Seer Overheard on the 22nd of July, in the 13th year of the 2nd millennia.

Ask her a question or engage in some conversation. But beware. She may offer you tea.

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Just a Barnard Baby

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Hi, I'm a first year and I'm pretty miserable. It looks like everyone already has a friend group or at least a couple of friends. I'm really shy and reserved. I've tried to put myself out there but it hasn't resulted in making any friends. I don't fit in and every interaction has felt superficial.
Asked by Anonymous

It’s tough. It really is, and I get that. In all honesty, it’s going to be like that for a while, but I really want you to understand that you will find the friends you need. Maybe not today, maybe not in a week, maybe not in a month, but you just need to keep at it. 

It may look like everyone already has friends, but I promise you that is not true. Many people are in the same boat as you, they’re just good at hiding it.You may be too. It’s entirely possible you’re the only one who knows you’re having trouble finding friends. To others (and others who are having trouble), you might seem perfectly fine. Essentially what I’m trying to say is that you’re not alone. Everyone is struggling in some way. It wouldn’t be a new experience otherwise.

Just let it happen. Check in with yourself. Allow yourself to feel hurt, sad, lonely, but then look forward to another day another chance. Because you’ll get another chance. You’ll get so many chances.

bonjourtristesse- said: 

Come hang out with me if you need someone to talk to or go out with or anything. I’m a sophomore and felt the same way as you when I was a freshman.

cupsofcoffee77 said: 

I’m out of Barnard now and I’m still best friends with someone I didn’t have a real connection with until the end of our first month there. It’ll come in! Hang in there! :)

6 Notes | Posted on August 31, 2014

Barnard College 2013-2014 Common Data Set ⇢

Found this for y’all. Here they have the racial/ethnic demographics at Barnard as well as factors they look at during admissions (including the importance of each factor). There’s also data on class sizes and financial aid.

4 Notes | Posted on August 31, 2014
Hey! Hope it's ok I'm asking another question. I was looking up Barnard's level of diversity on their website and was unable to find much info. A lot of schools seem to provide percentages of students of color and other stats. In your experience, is Barnard fairly diverse (on all levels of diversity)? I know that it's not a cheap school so does that make the student body homogenized in some ways?
Asked by confusedandanxious

It depends. I have met students from all walks of life and all background here, but there is a sense of a very strong presence of wealthy students. And I don’t mean by numbers (because I don’t know the numbers), but just in the sense of environment, it often feels like a lot of students here come from families with means. It’s not so egregious that you can say most students, but you could definitely say many students. 

It could also be because of Barnard’s branding. I’ve mentioned this before, but Barnard exudes an atmosphere that favors a certain kind of student, and that tends to be wealthy, cis, straight, and white. So Barnard often seems less diverse than it probably demographically is.

I’ve actually found myself far more often in a majority WOC environment than otherwise, and to be honest only some of that is intentional. It is a majority white school (I think I read like 57% somewhere??), but it’s not overwhelmingly so. I mean for some students that’s shocking diversity (high schools tend to very homogenized for a variety of reasons), but for others it’s disappointing. So it’ll depend. It’ll depend on you, and it’ll depend on the folks you like to surround yourself with.

Posted on August 31, 2014
3 Notes | Posted on August 31, 2014
I'm worried about bed bugs. Did Barnard charge you extra for the exterminators? How was the process of getting rid of bed bugs? Thank you!
Asked by Anonymous

No, they didn’t charge us extra. It was just a lot of bagging our stuff and taking it out so that they can exterminate, and then moving back in. It’s more of a hassle than anything.

1 Notes | Posted on August 26, 2014
i’m heading into my sophomore year and I haven’t yet taken any classes related to my major (i will be starting this semester) is this really bad?
Asked by Anonymous

Nope. That sounds pretty ok. Just make sure to make a plan about how you’ll be fulfilling your major and nine ways. Don’t go on the town with electives, since you’ll want to save some of those for senior year, and you also don’t want to be taking six classes a semester. Since you technically don’t have to declare until your sophomore year, there are lots of students who don’t start taking their major requirements until junior year. Just be smart about it.

Posted on August 26, 2014
How strict is Barnard about the guest policy? I have a friend from England coming and I'd like for him to stay for the max of six days but in a row, rather than three
Asked by Anonymous

Pretty strict these days, but it depends on whether the front desk attendant will enforce it or not. I highly recommend emailing reslife to ask if an exception can be made with your roommate(s) permission.

1 Notes | Posted on August 26, 2014
this is kind of a random question, but it's just something i'm worried about. i'm a slightly overweight girl, and i'm really stressed out that it will stop people (boys or girls) from liking me. everyone always says that new york is full of skinny beautiful people, and i'm just worried that i'll have a harder time fitting in with pretty skinny girls, or wondering why guys would want to be with me when there's so many skinny girls, kind of like how highschool was. thoughts?
Asked by Anonymous

Thoughts:

I’m not skinny. 

No, I’m serious. I’m not. There are days when I feel incredibly self-conscious about the way I look and the way my clothes fit me, but there are also days when I know that I’m killing it. Learning to love myself and who I am has been an ongoing process that dates back to my chubby tomboy elementary school days. But I am learning to love who I am. I’m also learning to love who I was, chubby tomboy 10 year old and all.

Many people at Barnard are not skinny. There is a certain look at Barnard that has epitomized what a Barnard woman means— cis, white, straight, skinny, Free People dresses, Lena Dunham poster— and there is absolutely nothing wrong with those women (except for the Lena Dunham poster), but it IS a brand. It’s a brand perpetuated by DSpar, it’s a brand perpetuated by our promotional materials, but it’s not indicative of the student body here.

I have yet to meet a student here who would judge another student by the way they look. Not that they’re not out there (we’re living in the real world after all), but for all of Barnard’s feminist flaws, body positivity is one aspect of feminism that I personally feel Barnard embodies very well. 

If a student doesn’t want to be your friend or date you because of the way you look, that’s their problem, and my friend, you are so much better off without them in your life. There are plenty of other people here who deserve you more.

Lastly, New York City is not filled with beautiful skinny people. New York City is filled with people, of all sizes, all shapes, all orientations, all bloody hair colors and body mods, all styles, and all temperaments. You cannot find a more diverse city, that I can promise you.

TL;DR.

Don’t worry. You’ll be ok.

8 Notes | Posted on August 26, 2014
if you have a barnard college job in your financial aid, do you HAVE to work at campus that year?
Asked by Anonymous

I do believe so. The job is part of your financial aid, so in order to keep that aid, you need to be employed on campus for this year. (americanhistoryquotes confirm?)

4 Notes | Posted on August 26, 2014

I’m back on campus, and it’s so fucking beautiful.

2 Notes | Posted on August 26, 2014